How often do you thank someone? I bet it’s several times a day. Thanks for holding the door, for explaining a process, for delivering a package. It’s common to thank someone out of habit rather than a true feeling of gratitude, especially when the action is routine.
What is Gratitude?
Gratitude, derived from the Latin word ‘gratia,’ means gratefulness or thankfulness. In its simplest form, gratitude refers to a ‘state of thankfulness’.
Expressing your sincere appreciation to others provides a positive impact on the recipient, but also has a positive impact on you. When you feel thankful, your perspective changes.
You see the silver linings and notice things you usually take for granted.
When you think about all the good in your life rather than focus on what’s lacking, that feeling of gratitude spills over to people. You notice the small stuff like your spouse preparing your coffee or the delivery guy arriving on time. And when this happens, you can’t help but be grateful.
Time for Reflection
Be honest and ask yourself:
- When you say “thank you” do you really mean it, or is it just a habit?
- Which situations or people would benefit from more meaningful expressions of gratitude?
- What happens when you say “thanks” to someone? Do you stop and make your expression meaningful? Or is it typically said quickly as you move on to the next thing?
Pause. Think. Communication matters – express your gratitude with specific examples of why and/or how the recipient made a difference. When face-to-face, use nonverbal cues that show how you feel such as eye contact.
Gratitude is a powerful emotion. When you experience gratitude, you feel grateful for something or someone and respond with feelings of kindness and warmth. Being truly grateful brings an inner peace and joy.
As Henry David Thoreau said, “I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual.” Now that’s gratitude.
